2018年9月30日 星期日

Seth's Blog : Evanescent boundaries

Evanescent boundaries

If you want to make the Olympic soccer team, join a symphony orchestra or get into medical school, the path is well lit. It's not easy, but the goals are clear and the boundaries are obvious.
Day by day, achievement by achievement, it's a linear race. You know the rules, you can see the competitive landscape and you can train. It's rare that the rules change along the way.
This is irresistible for some people, and if it ends, or they don't make it, they're often lost in the wilderness.
That's because real life doesn't have clear goals and obvious boundaries.
Real life is not organized around an 800 on the SATs, or a FGA average that's the highest in the league.
Instead, real life has changing rules, hidden rules, rules that aren't fair. Real life often doesn't reveal itself to us all at once, the way the rules of baseball are clearly written down.
And so, the first challenge of real life is: find some goals. And the second: figure out some boundaries.
It doesn't pay to get stressed out that these goals and these boundaries aren't the same as everyone else's. It doesn't pay to mourn the loss of the rigid structures that worked in the world you used to be in.
You're in real life now.
So, find some goals and find some boundaries.
Then you can get back to work.